People Insist On Giving You More When You Don't Want Anything

I went shopping with my mom last weekend. I really hate shopping...especially browsing.  I only went because my mom enjoys it and I wanted to spend time with her. 

She couldn't understand why a store like Bed, Bath & Beyond doesn't excite me.

"You love to cook. I can't believe you don't want me to buy you anything." She said.

"I don't see how any of these things will make me a better cook though." I smiled.

"Pick up something. Anything. I'm sure you want something here." After listening to that for about 10 minutes, I grabbed a stainless steel mixing bowl off the shelf.

I already have a mixing bowl but it sucks having only one when you're baking, since you usually need one for dry ingredients and another for wet ones.

Just as I was putting it into the cart, I noticed the $25 price tag and quickly put it back on the shelf.

I looked at her, "See, this is exactly why I don't like shopping."

She laughed.

After walking around the store for another 30 minutes (we actually ended up back in the Kitchen area) she asked me again to pick something out.

 

I settled on a $7 pie dish. I don't have one and figured it would be nice for pies & cobblers.

 

It's funny how things change.  As a kid, my mom's favorite word was "no" when we went shopping.  Now she's insisting that I get something.  Anything.

 

 

33 Things I've Never Told You

I got this idea from Corbett Barr while reading his ebook.

I hope you enjoy the randomness. :-)

1. I never dated outside my race before my husband. I was actually against interracial relationships. When I started dating him it was weird at first (probably because of all the stares), but I got over it.

2. I really want to homeschool my children and travel the world with them.

3. I love tiny modern apartments with city views.

4. I plan to never buy another house or car. 

5. My youngest son is on the autism spectrum (high-functioning). He remembers specific details about everything but prefers not to be held or touched for too long.  When I was researching his disorder, I saw many parents don't allow their children to consume dairy.

6. I sometimes miss pizza with real cheese on it.

7. I wonder if my kids will resent some of the decisions I've make with their upbringing-vegan eating, no cable, not buying them a lot, etc.

8. I think mid-day naps should be mandatory for everyone.  The world would be a better place. :-)

9. Even though I had 2 children when I married my husband, I don't think I could date a man with children.

10. I'm addicted to the Internet and when I unplug, I sit for a few minutes and say, "now what?"  I recently installed Freedom, so I can actually get work done.

11. Up until very recently, I felt like I had to get approval before I did anything.  I took a few weeks "off" and decided that my happiness depends on doing what's best for me. No apoligizes from here on out.

12. No matter what she does, I will always love and admire Oprah because she convinced me to tell my parents about my sexual abuse.  My parents understood the importance of counseling and I attended sessions for six months.  When I got older, I realized our insurance didn't cover that expense and they had to pay out of pocket.  I'm thankful they had the resources.

13. I resent a lot of my maternal family because of how they respond to me about the abuse.  They tried to push it under the rug.  I have a feeling this is common in a lot of families.

14. I hope to never work for anyone else again.

15. I enjoy watching fashion and makeup tutorials on Youtube.  I admire women who can put outfits & makeup together effortlessly.

16. My dream is to be location-independent-Live and work for myself anywhere in the world using the Internet and video chat.

17. I know too much celebrity gossip and not enough world history.

18. I'm pretty insecure about my writing, and often feel I can't articulate words on paper the way I think them. This is one of the reasons I post on the blog daily-Practice!

19. I listen to a lot of ratchet music.  I used to be embarrassed but not so much anymore.

20. I can be snobby sometimes. Umm, I'm broke though. lol

21. I'm financially conservative but very liberal on social issues.

22. I yell a lot and talk too fast.

23. I don't buy a lot of physical things but I go overboard with digital items like Kindle books and iTunes.

24. Sometimes I want cable so I can watch OWN.  I keep hearing about Oprah's Master Class & Next Chapter.

25. One of the reasons, I got rid of cable is because I knew it would be harder for me to compete with relentless advertisers trying to sell my kids junk food and toys.  They do watch some shows online.

26. I've never smoked a cigarette and I didn't drink until I was 21-LAME lol

27. I am very nosey. In restaurants, I listen to multiple conversations at a time.  I rationale it by saying I need to be aware of what's going on around me.

28. I set my home page to Webster to help filter out some of the propaganda news stories. Plus, I learn a new word each day.

29. I have three younger siblings (close to my kids' ages) that I don't know very well.

30. It's very easy for me to form new friendships but very hard for me to maintain them.

31. Most of my closest friends are single and childless-I find that funny considering I'm married with three kids.

32. It's liberating to know that I don't need much to be happy.

33. I sometimes wonder if my unconventional methods will hurt my kids long-term.  Last week, Alvin asked if he could stay home and read all day. He literally stayed in bed and read all day.

You should do your own 33 Things.  When you do, send me a link, so I can read it. :-)

Thanks for reading!

 

RIP Borders: Did I Contribute To Their Demise?



I'm sad to hear that Borders is liquidating their assets and will be out of business by September.  One of my favorite pastimes is browsing their titles and drinking their teas. I must admit, I rarely buy anything outside of the tea.  The kids get their book from the library and I use my Kindle for purchases.

After going to lunch with my mom the other day, I headed over to Borders for my monthly retreat.  I planned to find a comfy chair in a corner and enjoy a few hours of solitude.  I arrived in the parking lot and couldn’t find parking for nearly five minutes.  The parking lot was foreshadowing of what was to come in the actual store.  The checkout line stretched to the back of the store, babies were screaming, associates continually yelled “next to line” and the café was nonexistent.  I didn’t understand the fascination. Most of the titles were only 10% off and when the books are an average of $25; that’s not my idea of a bargain.  I guess the company still doesn't get why they're going under in the first place.


After browsing for a bit, I headed over to the journal and accessories area to check out the writing tablets and pens.  I spotted a journal I liked but was against the $13 price tag (It wasn’t even hard cover).

My lack of Border purchases came down to the price.  Is it wrong that I used their cozy ambience, drank their tea, but then have the audacity to use another source to purchase books?  Most Amazon Kindle new releases are about $10, when you can’t find anything at that price at Borders.

I guess most people use Borders like me, as a relaxing hang out spot ONLY. Borders will surely be missed.  By the way, I snagged a journal at Target for half the price.

R.I.P Borders

Empty cafe