One In, TWO Out

"Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like." -Will Smith

This post is inspired by Angela Yee's $70,000 shoe collection.  The New York radio personality says she has accumulated several hundred pairs of designer shoes over the years.  Even though the number of shoes she owns is astounding, I can't say I'm too surprised. As a society, we tend to become slaves to overconsumption.  It is ingrained in us from an early age to acquire as many luxuries as possible to obtain a sense of  status and security in American culture.  The theory of work hard to acquire more isn't too far fetched in our society.


A Solution for Life

Yee's article has forced me to reflect on my own overconsumption.  I've decided to test out the One In, Two Out philosophy in my own life.  How will this work?  If I purchase one item, I will go home and donate (or sell) two items.

The Logic Behind this Decision

In my quest to streamline every room in our house, the One In, Two Out plan will allow me to control the additional clutter and maintain an organized living space.  I have decided to apply this philosophy to my own stuff only, and will continue the One In, One Out with the kids.

I'm optimistic about this change because I think it will:

*Curve impulsive purchases- I will likely not want to give away 2 of anything, so this decision will force to me think long and hard before making any purchase.

*Make practical buying decisions-I will more likely to seek out products that not only make our lives easier but offer multiple uses

*Buy Less, Have More, Save More-Amazing Domino effect

We deceive ourselves into believing the purchase of a larger home, newer car, or designer clothes will make us feel better about ourselves. In actuality, after the excitement of a purchase wears off, the emptiness settles in and we look for the next new, shiny, and very temporary fix.  It's a cycle.  A vicious cycle that we have all fallen victim to.  Not to mention, the additional responsibility of maintaining this new item, which can include additional expense and time. Time taken away from relationships and issues that are truly important to us.  My plan is to combat any feelings of emptiness with prayer, love, and laughter; not overconsumption.  I want to get back to the basics and focus more on quality time with family, exploring new hobbies, writing, and not falling prey to the media ploy of more is the key to happiness.

Internet Sabbatical

Last week I decided to take a break for three days to see how productive I could become without the distraction of being online.  I lasted only two days but I feel pretty good about my progress; mainly because I rarely go a day without the Internet.

Here's what I did:

*Made mango sorbet



*Drank some beer-what's the deal with me about beer right now?

*Walked/jogged 16 miles

*Read a book

*Watched the boys chase fireflies



*Visited a Civil War battlefield







*Watched  A.N.T. Farm with the chipmunks



*Celebrated

Master Closet Reveal

"When our homes-the containers of our daily lives are overflowing with clutter, our souls take a backseat to our stuff.  We no longer have the time, energy, and space for new experiences.  We feel cramped and inhibited, like we can't fully stretch out and express ourselves."

I purged our master closet last week and here's the new space....



We still have a few things to give away but we 're both enjoying the space so far. I'm glad that we have a  little "office space" since our home lacks that formal room.

It can be quite difficult to get a moment to clear your thoughts, work on your blog (I have been interrupted twice since I started typing this while in the dining room), or some reading done with three little ones running around.  The new closet has given us a chance to "escape" for a few moments and that is such a great gift.

Anyone wondering what the deal is with the dolls?  Well, I started collecting special edition Barbie and porcelain dolls back in high school.  I thought I would eventually pass them on to a daughter, but with having our 3 chipmunks, I decided to give most away.  I discovered that I had a total of 13 Barbies before the purge!  They were all stacked in the corner collecting dust and I didn't even remember owning some of them.  I decided to keep 4, but the number may end up being more like 1 in the near future.

I also kept the porcelain doll sitting on the desk because it was the first one my mom gave me while traveling in Paris.  It definitely holds great sentimental value.  :-)

Background Noise

"When we cut out the background noise, we put what's truly special to us in the spotlight."

I chanted this Francine Jay quote several times while in Orlando.  Why?  Because I knew I was about to embark on another big transition once I returned home.  I wanted to constantly remind myself why it was so important to finally rid myself of a background noise that consumed a large portion of my day.  The distraction is none other than the TV in our bedroom.



I was endless hours watching mindless shows instead of focusing on more important things, like spending quality time with the boys and exploring new hobbies. I talked to The Hubs for several months about the possibility and he wasn't interested.  He felt my "aha moment" was punishing him and wanted to keep the TV along with the 150 channels that we subscribed to.

With the relaxing week away and many hours of conversation, I was able to get him to consider and then respect my decision...with a compromise of course.  I agreed to keep the TV in the family room (with satellite service).

When we returned from Orlando (Thursday) I didn't disconnect the TV right away like I'd planned to do.  I was purging the closet and had every intention of not watching it, until my sister called to tell me one of my favorite  movies was on.  Of course I could have turned it off afterwards, but while channel surfing I crossed a show I like and the cycle continued.

I kept the TV on for the rest of the night and early the next morning called DirecTV to cancel the receiver.

I spoke to a very nice man who offered us 3 months of free HBO before we hung up.  I told The Hubs the rep must have sensed our satellite days are numbered; since we only have two receivers on our plan.

Another advantage to this change is, that I can now admire the beautiful of our armoire. It was previously stuffed to the rim with the box TV and clothing that I doubt we wear. Now I can close it for the first time and we can use it storing writing materials and books.



It's not that I will never watch TV again or that I necessarily hate it. The point of this change is to allow more time to BE STILL.  I want to give my mind more time to wander and hopefully use this new time to explore fresh interest and hobbies.  I admit that I still have moments of "what will I do now?" or "what have I done?" but I truly  believe those feelings will dissipate as the days go on.  If not, I still have the TV in the family room. Five people sharing one TV? This should get interesting.  :-)

Home Sweet Home

What does a mama do after getting up too early to make sure everything was packed, sitting in the airport for 2 hrs with 3 jittery kids, listening to Simon talk back about FIVE times, and fighting DMV traffic after not getting any sleep on a flight when she gets home from vacation?  She clears out her closet for the biggest purge to date that's what.

Before the clearing....



I should have probably taken more pictures of the floor.  It was lined with boxes of junk, clothing, shoes and art supplies.  I also found a folding table, an iron and sooo many other knick knacks I didn't know we owned.  I happily packed several bags for Goodwill.





Alvin helped me clear out the clutter and all of us danced around the empty space.  Even though I've always thought the space was a decent size, I couldn't believe how spacious the closet truly is.  The kids begged for an art or play room to occupy the newly empty space.  It sounded like a nice idea but The Hubs and I decided to dedicate it to storing clothes (I reduced my wardrobe by nearly 50%!) and a mini office for our writing.

I still have a lot to do and will reveal the pictures in a later post.